The answers to the Questions that arise from time to time in us as therapists—what heals in therapy, the solution to the secret, what makes the change, and brings about the correct development—are complex. Each approach will certainly provide answers in its way, using its language and concepts, and each therapist will add answers that are influenced by their elements and biases.
Since the article is written from the perspective of approaches that advocate for the development of consciousness and self-awareness as essential and central components in the healing of the human soul, I will first briefly address a myth related to creation, consciousness, and healing.
One of the most fascinating myths about humanity's creation tells us how human consciousness was formed, how its fate unfolds, how humanity is integrated into it, and the role of the emotional wound in its development.
The theme develops through two fascinating mythological figures: one is Prometheus, the Titan, who thinks ahead, creates humanity, and is punished by the gods, with the ability to possess a higher consciousness symbolized by the fire stolen from those Gods.
The consciousness stolen in this myth is unlike the Tablets of the Covenant received from God and symbolizes the values of morality and conscience. It is not received by a person like the leader Moses, who mediates God's word to the people, but by Prometheus, the figure of the cunning humanist who symbolizes a human archetype, part of our soul. The one who thinks ahead is the one who is recognized for their significant role and sacrifice for the sake of humanity's consciousness. In his work for the sake of human consciousness and the hubris of his theft
Again, it is not the man who steals consciousness for himself here but a higher representation, his Creator, who is punished and chained and whose fate is suffering. During the day, vultures eat their liver, and the
liver grows again at night. Prometheus (the thinking man) symbolizes, in essence, the fate of man and the heavy price of expanding and nurturing consciousness, which can also heal him
This is the price paid by those who want to acquire a mind that robs us of our vitality. Paradoxical, what takes from men's health can also cure them. The gods determined that Prometheus' fate would change if someone volunteered to replace him as a sacrifice for humanity after a few hundred generations.
The second character that expands consciousness, the one that replaces Prometheus after a few hundred generations. He is a later character, Chiron the Centaur, a hybrid creature whose human upper half is that of a tall man with immense knowledge, and he even becomes the teacher of heroes. His lower half is an energetic and powerful horse. The story of Chiron is that the part of the horse in him was accidentally injured by the hero Hercules, leaving him with a mortal and eternal wound.
The wounded Chiron, who became the wounded healer, is willing to sacrifice for humanity; he is ready to replace the sacrificial Prometheus and release him. Chiron becomes the healer of the wounded by replacing Prometheus in the continuation of 
the sacrifice for the development of humanity and humaneness, this time through the inevitable mortal wound.
We will leave Chiron, the wounded healer who brings new consciousness by entering the wound and humanity's ability to heal it, as the guiding image in our dialogue.
I'll start by explaining how, as a veteran therapist who began his work as a clinical psychologist in a psychodynamic, Freudian direction and has been practicing the Jungian approach for about 40 years, I view this.
The more years you treat, the more the path you choose becomes tailored to you. Even if you rely on a particular therapeutic approach, you find your variation over time and define and explain things in your way. You give more room for intuition and are significantly influenced by how things work for you in your work with yourself and the patients.
If the years you have passed as a person and therapist have not made you pious and jealous of your approach, which is not desirable, your process will make you understand how much the soul can develop; these are complex things and, therefore, more open and accepting, both other people and different approaches to the soul. With time and the expansion of consciousness, I would say that you have grown in openness and willingness to dialogue, influence, and learn from different perspectives, approaches, and the next generation. Not an intergenerational struggle, but a learning and completion process. And if you accept that the aspects of the so-called unknown soul and its healing way come from different perspectives, you even add that to the way you work.
All this certainly depends on your individuality and, later, on the myth, your wound, and what happened to you as an individual and a therapist throughout your life.
In other words, if you grow up and do not become rigid, and the theory and attitude do not become a religious part of your personality, or, in Hillman's language, the power of your character and principles has not taken over you, whatever is undesirable to happen will be open, flowing, communicating, understanding, giving space to others, and even putting them in your toolbox.
This is how I would like to see myself and my colleagues approach life and the profession.
Anyone who deals with mental health treatment, and here I am referring mainly to doctors and healers of complex mental illness and not only to therapists of human behavior and thought (which is also legitimate), will agree with me that psychotherapy, psychotherapy of any kind, verbal or artistic, or analyses of their forms, are all based on a few general principles that are a kind of basic conditions for a therapeutic process
First, we all recognize that it is essential to create a therapeutic space that is distinct and possesses special qualities, allowing the self to be formed. It is necessary to maintain an open atmosphere of acceptance, particularly by listening with a "third ear." As a patient once said, "How liberating it is that I have room to express every idea, every wish, and every deviation that I have
Everyone will agree that there is a language of treatment, whether verbal or nonverbal, and that a unique therapeutic encounter should be created for each patient. We will all agree that trust and the joint dedication of the patient and the therapist to the process are essential, even though these in themselves can be a significant problem that needs to be worked on in therapy
Second, every therapist will agree that therapeutic communication between therapist and patient is essential for the rise of emotions and memories, that it is done in intellectual but also symbolic language, that it gives room for rational thought—to choose but also for imagination and association, for diverse creation, and that it tries to reach the meaning of things as well
Above all, everyone will agree that the process involves a (somehow) joint observation of the patient's psyche and its products by the patient and the therapist. They will also agree that there should be at least a personal observation of the therapist's soul in the context of each treatment he undertakes
Any therapist of another's psyche will agree that the relationship between the therapist and the patient is complex, transferenceal, and stimulating. This means it has an imaginary, transferred, or projected aspect of the parents' figures or their absence
These relationships are sometimes prone to reconstruction, with expectations for something different from what they had as children. In any case, they are relationships with hope and sometimes with illusion, from which salvation will come to their problem
But we also know, more than ever, that these relationships are genuine human connections; a person meets another person, a soul meets a soul, and the unconscious meets the unconscious. So, even if they are not symmetrical, they are supposed to be reciprocal, and it is also desirable that, over time, they will reach an intersubjective relationship
Everyone will agree that there is a changing direction and purpose here from the patient's soul
We hope that a process that develops over time will occur in therapy, where therapeutic work is done together, and that the common interest is the patient's soul, healing its parts, fostering fusion, correction, or even the development of missing parts. Sometimes, the work is of separation and differentiation, and sometimes of synthesis, connection of parts, and integration into something else. Sometimes, construction and formation require extended dismantling for construction
Over the years, as a therapist like all of you, I have observed the emergence of various approaches that characterize the prevailing zeitgeist. And let's remember that the individual psyche mirrors the zeitgeist, society, and culture.: We are all familiar with the decline in theories that emphasize the drives and impulse, and we see the change in the emphasis on the direction of the self and the object relations in psychoanalysis, the focus on the relationships in the intersubjective approaches, on the place of creativity and art and in general, the fantastic addition of the approaches of expression and creativity therapy and the strategies that focus on the body with the addition of stimulating means such as animal-assisted therapy. At the same time, the place of spirituality is in treatment
We are all aware of the change in the nature and place of the relationship, of the countertransference in particular, and of the place of the therapist in the treatment processes themselves
Over time, we observe the biases of each approach and its attempts to refine its uniqueness, as well as the language and main concepts that characterize it. Each approach builds its narrative, and even its history and mythology, its credo, and I very much hope that it also does so to know its limitations, its shadow: like the shadow of the Jungian approach and its weak sides, and of course, its politics expressed in institutes and castes
In other words, there is a general process here, movement, and we will use the Jungian language for a moment: just as people in personal processes within the cultural context make a movement towards their self, undergo sharpening and individuation over time, collecting and connecting all their parts into something whole, so perhaps therapeutic approaches also undergo a similar process. Just as the individual who is jealous of their ego, self, and way, especially when they are still weak, can develop an attitude that becomes stronger and more needy, they can also become envious of themselves. Its people must learn to accept and give space to the other approach and not become believers. Because, once again, the soul is obscure and complex, and there is a lot of room for perceptions, consequences, and various developments
One of the main things characteristic of our time – the Age of Aquarius (Man at the Center) – is the growing awareness of the place of man's individuality beyond the ego, his power, and the view of man as reacting mainly to his place in the herd. During this period, the self was also revealed, and its importance to humanity grew; thus, his awareness of his uniqueness in each area also increased. The understanding of oneness, the specific weight of a person, made these important. And became the spirit of the times. Awareness was also created that self-discovery is a process that requires work
Disturbance in the ability to receive and give, to allow oneself to be seen, and to influence one's uniqueness can harm the soul. This development also includes the need for uniqueness in many physical and mental healing areas. We all understand that each person is a unique individual and deserves a distinct approach. And, of course, a person needs a way to heal, change, and reveal himself. From this point of view, it is good that there are different approaches
I will begin by characterizing the Jungian variation of man's perception and how to understand and heal his soul. Due to personality and political problems, this variation grew and split out of a psychodynamic-psychodramatic approach
This variation strongly believes in the need for a person to be themselves and as a whole, and that they can achieve this with great awareness of the complications that come with it. A variation that believes in the power of the soul to heal, raise, and give birth to itself. It is a path that believes in the language of images and symbols, as well as in their special and healing power, and in the healing that comes from within the soul.
Symbolic language: Elevating us to a complete state is like shifting the goal of libidinal investment to another level and changing the source of nourishment and healing to a higher one. The self is a partner and the axis of the ego self-access; therefore, it is a mental activity beyond the thinking or feeling self
A human being is a person who carries within them a genetic variation of all human beings, encompassing their physical and mental complexity. He is also a product of a particular culture, society, and period, as well as a distinct family with all that entails. It is a specific individual in the same family. It has a personal and mental structure, a unique variation based on the same standard general structure that we carry in body and soul. In the basic pattern, but also the unique variation, there is also the possibility of healing, of change, and one must look at it positively, both causally and purposefully. The symptoms indicated a need for observation and a willingness to change
Despite similar basic structures and familiar patterns, and perhaps precisely because of them, the human soul needs to develop towards individuation within a given society within some collective with which it also has a relationship
To open to healing, a person needs to shed their shell, give up their defenses, and, over time, change their patterns of survival, trust, and devotion. He will do this in a human context of connection and in a uniquely personal way, next to something that perceives his soul and uniqueness
Therefore, he needs a flexible approach to adapt to his surroundings, to his needs, to his language (which can sometimes be rigid, occasionally flexible, and sometimes characterized by close relationships), and to his development. For example, in psychotherapy, we will use as much as possible the world of his content, the therapeutic language, and the images of therapy that come from his world
A person needs to consider his physical and mental age, recognition of his level of development where he comes from, and the type of therapist who will fit and sit in front of him: a man, a woman, a young man, an adult, a group similar or different from him, and so on
Therefore, a central part of the therapeutic approach and Jungianism will pay special attention to the person's uniqueness and the uniqueness of the therapist-patient encounter. Not to treat in a schematic pattern, not according to a prescription that is too acceptable, and not rigidly and uniformly, that lacks a unique approach. Sometimes, in other treatments, instead of the patient leading there, and we sometimes object, we find the healing. For example, I had a patient who drew and created and would bring her works, and had to leave them in the clinic for a while. Once, she made her suitcase trouble, a disturbing creation that stood in my mind, threatening and dominant. Over time, she asked us to go out to the yard and burn her, and I felt distressed and trembling that I could go with her to burn her suitcase outside the clinic. The joint burning of the work had an indescribable therapeutic effect.
The starting point of this approach is that if we create a place to awaken the self and reach it, to awaken its parts to connect, to awaken the inner healer, to identify where and for what or to whom the parts of the self are discarded, there must be a unique approach to this soul
If we want to heal the wounds created by the splitting of the self in this way, help that soul break free from its stuckness, and reach a more integrative wholeness, we need flexibility and adjustment, which is not always simple. The approach is emotional, sometimes more intellectual, and sometimes spiritual.
The Jungian images of therapy are sometimes derived from alchemical work, substances of symbolic value, and psychological elements of symbolic significance. We create a container in which four elements operate (water-emotion, earth-based, materials, facts, fire-enthusiasm, intuition, air-thought, spirit, etc.), and it relies on two processes of consciousness: the solar sun and the lunar moon. In the process, psychic substances emerge, arise, and undergo processing. We imagine that the substances in the container created between the therapist and the patient undergo reactions, personal processes, and influences on personality that lead to change
There is the birth of new materials and the death of old materials. The therapeutic uterus is also a breeder and midwife, serving as a grave and repository for past experiences. "The uterus of the new self is
https://www.avibauman.me/the-narcissistic-wish-for-others-to-heal-our-self-and-the-process-of-accepting-and-containing-childhood-wounds/Sometimes the emotional wound," Hillman tells us.
The creation of the container is also a highly personal and interpersonal process; the patient and I are partners in the creation of the container, including the language, materials, and methods. It had already happened to me in several treatments that I learned something new, especially for a patient, that they were the ones who aroused something in me that I was not interested in before it became essential to know for them in therapy. A world of content that I had not been exposed to before. And this change that I made added to the creation of the nature of the shared container in therapy
According to the concept, therapy that involves reciprocity occurs, draws materials, and provides mental substances on two principal axes: one axis deals with what happens inside the psyche: the patient's soul (and also the therapist) and the connection between his conscious and unconscious, where the central change in the treatment is expected.
The second axis refers to the dynamics that occur within the therapeutic relationship, specifically between the therapist and the patient. Internal things and projective things, real things that happen, and imaginary things. In both axes, something is parallel, a process that is like a dialogue of materials, feelings, thoughts, imagination, and creativity. It is a process of the appearance of new things and the death of old ones both in the internal axis and interpersonal relationships
On both the internal and interpersonal axes, the patient is an active partner in creating things about the issues and influences what is supposedly the therapist's business. The therapist is a partner in feelings, reactions, and reverberations without too much of a persona, and maintaining his official role. Because of adhering to the principle of uniqueness, I will sometimes focus on what is happening between us, and sometimes more on what is happening internally, between him and himself. But we must remember that both axes are always there, and be aware of what is happening in them
In other words, beyond the serious listening, observing, and emotional meaning, there is a dialogue here, a mutuality that activates and heals mutual influence, material touching matter, and activates each other. A healer and a sick patient, and a healer that exists in the two participating souls
The sources of the materials of the treatment and the healing, and the driving force that activates the processes that are created, are numerous, but the main ones are
First, the patient's psyche, a reflection of his life's journey, is powerful. Second, the transformative potential of the therapeutic relationship is equally significant.
The patient's complex psyche contains his mind, feelings, experiences, and the parts and complexes of the significant people who influenced him. Everything is embedded in his conscious soul, including the parts that are not yet conscious: the shadows, the complexes, the anima, and more
The same psyche that is composed of opposites and contains unconscious parts, both those that have been repressed and those that have never been conscious, are entirely new. It is worth emphasizing that these are also contradictory aspects that can arise for the first time following the development of the transference and the influence of the therapist and the therapeutic situation on the patient. The substances will evolve, expand, and sometimes be amplified in cultural amplifications (augmented by myth, legend, or story)
Some Jungian concepts distinguish this approach, and it is worth mentioning that they can help clarify what heals or brings about mental transformation in therapy.
We have already emphasized, and I will reiterate, that the soul, like a person in life, develops and changes within relationships and encounters with others and oneself. Parts of the soul are often found in the other, and it is worth noting that the influence can also be harmful at times.
The soul develops, changes, heals, and expands through an effective encounter with the unconscious or parts of it through dreams, imagination, and creativity
The soul gains momentum and change by actively working with imagination. The transcendent function, a concept in Jungian psychology that describes the process of integrating opposites, helps it move us to a new place.
The soul can and continues to undergo catharsis, a process of emotional release and mental transcendence through encounters with past experiences and something new and unfamiliar. In any fantastic field, catharsis has an uplifting and healing effect.
Due to the presence of the common soul that we all have – primitive man – we can understand better than anyone else and undergo so-called new, ancient, and numinous experiences of our own
The urge to develop, separate, and create an ego and a center of consciousness is imprinted in the organism from birth and is most active in the first half of life.
Harming this impulse or failing to provide conditions for its action and development will result in injury and lasting scars.
A person's motivation to realize, to connect all the parts of which he is made, increases and intensifies in the second half of life. This has the most significant impact on his inability to recognize it or the extent of his distance from what has driven him to this point, which can create a complex problem in the second half.
Recognizing the contradictions within the soul and the ability to emotionally, creatively, and spiritually unite them is central to creating change and giving birth to the self, akin to the third stage of the healing process.
A large part of the human psyche, particularly the central structure and the underlying patterns that form its basis, as well as the personal variations within the archetypal world, is stable, serving as a foundation that can also serve as a central substrate in the treatment process. Simultaneously, all of these can lead to healing.
The transcendental excitation within the relationship, of course, brings repression, trauma, and challenging experiences that are fragmented, but also dormant archetypal psychic patterns that can be revived, such as active archetypes in therapy: the archetype of father, the father, the child, the teacher, the God-self, the archetype of the path, the journey, the anime, The Animus, the wise man and woman, as well as archetypes of shadow and evil. Archetypes of change, leading figures, and elemental materials such as water, air, fire, and earth can also arise
The archetypes and innate patterns can always bring about a new awakening and create the possibility of a new personal variation amid a new and corrective relationship. What kind of new good mother figure can arise in the process, a figure that comes from the unconscious and is projected not necessarily on the caregiver but on the grandmother, on an imaginary figure, and even an animal like a fruiting cow, a figure that the dream invented and will continue to be part of the therapy.
The archetype of the self unites the entire soul, propelling it toward realization and development. The self is connected to the ego and works in cooperation with it like a father and son unless there is a disconnect between them, and then this is what therapy deals with.
The self that is to be revealed is also created out of the revelation. It is shown through the connection to the various parts and everything a person experiences, expanding his consciousness. The connection to these different parts has a tremendous healing effect.
Practical in life, in young development. Each time, the self is found and embodied in a different factor in which the soul will be interested in its development: mother, father, ego, girlfriend, spouse, children, etc. The other half comprises the integrative collection of the soul's parts: shadow, complexes, anima, and the God-Adam axis. In therapy, this embodiment can be, for some time, both in the figure of the therapist and in the figures and images that arise from the patient's world.
The therapist catalyzes the therapy process, stimulating the aspects of the self that the soul needs. Each session, the therapist or the process awakens a new element of the self, and the therapist can become the object of the consequences of different parts of the self
However, what is essential is that, with the help of transference, a key concept in Jungian therapy, the therapist can awaken all of this in the patient and within their soul, causing movement and expansion of consciousness, sometimes for empowerment and differentiation, or in other situations, expansion and integration. The process of projection, taking it, understanding it, and connecting emotionally while they are among the healers in the process
There is a difference between seeing the self, and even the multiple self, as a representation of the other self, and seeing it as something fundamental in the patient's psyche that needs proper nourishment and a necessary incubation for the patient's self to awaken and develop
During the treatment process, the conditions will change and reverse. The regression to unity that can lead to separation can be healing, but it can also be the opposite: creating separation to foster a new kind of intersubjective unity. In the whole process with the development of the axis I, spirituality takes on a new place; the things, events, and concrete milestones in the journey of life make room for their meaning, and a certain liberation comes from the material, from the ego, to give more weight to the spirit to the meaning
During this period, healing exists and is created by finding meaning in connection with the spiritual part of the meaning
After we have touched on the uniqueness of the Jungian vision, if we try to summarize and demonstrate what heals
From the cornerstones of the complex Jungian approach, we see that healing takes place in different and changing ways and is multifaceted and multifaceted
It typically occurs through various situations within the relationship and is influenced by the unconscious and its associated language. With the help of mutual processes and processes and through the formation of several phenomena and experiences of the patient, Of course, it must be remembered that it depends on where the patient was when he arrived at the treatment:
We will gather the general means that contribute to healing, change, and development, according to my view:
Creating the standard container (our place, the one we created, will always be like a home for the encounter with my inner self)
Creating a container in which the work process in which other things are born and the death of others will begin
There is something that needs to die, to leave, to be released, and there is something that needs to be born, to grow and grow
There are dismantling and constructions; there is where the self and not the ego will speak
There is the creation of a special language and the connection and unification of matter and spirit
Jungian Diagnosis. Besides general diagnosis, it needs to take into account the patient's age and psychic development, ability to symbolize and introspect, connection to the inner self, and the ability to develop the relationship strength of the ego in front of the complexes, the main and the inferior function, and the potential to become Psychotic
The therapeutic relationship
Love in therapy differs from love in everyday life. "I love coming here, but it's always important for me to feel that I'm also influencing the place," a patient told me
First of all, the special and unique treatment that is received accompanies the entire treatment
And the therapist's attitude toward addressing deficiencies, emotional correction of relationships with significant figures, and trauma, etc.
It contributes to corrective experiences, connects to emotions, fills in deficiencies, and helps individuals cope with them. "On your hand, I feel for the first time the father who didn't see me didn't approve and didn't know what he was missing, and you see…" A patient said to me
Creates a container through which defenses, shadows, and wounds are opened, relinquishing defenses and, later, survival patterns (I told myself I would never need anyone)
He creates a dialogue parallel to the internal dialogue
It allows the projections and awakening of the unconscious and the self on their part, and will enable us to take the consequences
Connection with mutual influence touching mutual change as two substances
Allows intimacy and a unitary connection at first and intersubjectivity later to identify what we are different from others and made differently.
The internal dialogue and connection
The dialogue of the selfie with the parts of the shadow self, the anime, the complexes, and the Reflection
-Experiencing -The Emotional Dialogue of All Kinds
-putting in another dimension, The Dialogue with Symbolic Language
- Developing Imagination -The Dialogue with the Active Imagination
Creation and Internal Dialogue
*The Discovery Dimension
Discovering the emotional world – new emotions that accompany processing, releasing, and surviving patterns and defenses
Discovering what I'm carrying that isn't mine
Liberation from the emotional burdens of traveling, the burdens of others, parents, etc.: what is mine and what is not mine
Healing through Discovery and Revelation, The Archetypes, the Numinous in Discovering the Access of Ego Self-
The discovery that there is a whole self in us and beyond us
The emotional dimension (crying in therapy, the difficulty until you don't cry)
Emotional Attitude – Encounter, Discovery, Processing, Closeness, Confrontation
Healing through creating intimacy with myself and with the therapist, Mutual acceptance, and giving
The ability to create an emotional atmosphere. I see this function as central to processing, connecting, cleaning, and connecting the heart and mind
The Dimension That Creates Connection and Empathy
The Central Dimension of the Relationship
The internal glue of the parts
Catharsis
*The Insights Dimension
New connections, reciprocity, the liberation that follows emotional processing, various distinctions, and the discovery of the unconscious and its powers. Illumination about spiritual parts, meaning, and the ability to turn to something higher within the soul.
The symbolic dimension (eating the brain by the patient, aggression, or internalization)
The symbol of a healer is a unifier of opposites
The symbol is a transferor to another dimension in which everything is different and in which the soul speaks
The symbol enables a transcendent function
Working on dreams and active imagination while listening to the symbolic dimension
The Symbolic Representations of the Archetype
*The Creative Dimension
Healing through creativity: to put the materials of the soul in a personal variation or materials. The recognition of contrasts and the power of uniting opposites in work, an encounter with images, and filling non-verbal materials.
Healing is through the release of the inferior function, its discovery, the development of new pleasures, and illuminating challenges
The Dimension of Narrative and Self-Formation
Healing is through connecting to inner strength, confidence, will, masculine power, or feminine essence, emotions, inner parts, personal stories, and the help of the therapist
For some people, the revelation of the meaning of the symbolism of things
Illumination of the self and the self beyond the self, the plane of the self, as Neumann calls him
Self-acceptance and acceptance of who I am, for better or for worse, recognition of the non-self of others, recognition of what is above me, connection to finite, temporal humanity, etc
How do I face a higher power: a child who is lost and asking, angry and disappointed, or an adult at eye level who sees God as an interlocutor arguing and conducting a dialogue?
The Dimension of Cultural Amplification: Man's ability to draw from the collective soul
Relax and be filled with the archetypal-numinous dimension
The Interest in Therapy and the Objective Psyche
Pumping materials for identification and belonging
Any dimension that interests a person can be an opening to amplification: mythology, cinema, literature, philosophy, astrology, and more
The wounded healer is an archetype and representative
* The dimension of renunciation, the end of treatment and internalization, digestion, separation, independence, and self
"Six months after the end of the treatment, I am already able to say goodbye and thank you, but only through a letter
Between December 14th and February 15th, I experienced total commitment. I felt that there was nothing more important in the world for you than my desire to be healed, and that is how I had to feel, and it was central to my healing
And there were moments of exaltation when you only cared for me, and my well-being stood before you
And the things you said to me in those moments when I felt you this way built me and are part of me:
"I want you to know that you did all this yourself," and you can trust yourself completely
How do you explain that with everything that came up here, there is a part of you that hasn't been harmed? (I saw this astonishment on your face now that I'm writing to you. And I can now add that it's not part of it; it's the infrastructure that allows me to feel myself as a human being, experience deep humanity and vitality, and say goodbye to the ghost I've been in all my life
Still, I am entirely at peace with the separation from you, without which there would not have been the profound and wonderful change within me that has happened gradually over the past six months in my new home
